What if the reason you do not know who you are supposed to be is because you have just spent way too much time trying to be who everyone else needed you to be? You may know how to be a good friend, a good partner, a good daughter, a good employee or the person people can rely on. You may know what other people expect from you. You may even know what you are supposed to want. But when someone asks what you want, what matters to you or what kind of life feels right for you, the

Some parts of you only appear or disappear under very specific conditions. Like when you are alone. When you are with someone you completely trust. When you are doing something that makes you lose track of time. Or when you are not trying to be sensible, agreeable, impressive or easy to understand. Those moments can reveal more than you expect. They might reveal the opinion you usually keep quiet, the ambition you tend to minimise or the side of your personality that doesn't

Why do I sometimes wonder whether I am actually being myself? It can be a strange feeling. You may not be lying to anyone. You may not be pretending to be someone else. You may even look completely comfortable with your life from the outside. And yet something feels slightly off. You start questioning your reactions. The way you speak. The choices you make. The people you become around different people. You start wondering whether you genuinely like the things you say you lik

In the back of our minds there is a question that can feel almost selfish just for asking it. Is it okay to love myself more than I love other people? For some people, the immediate answer will be no. We are taught to love our family. To care for our friends. To put our children first. To be there for the people we love. To make sacrifices. To give. To forgive. To put other people before ourselves. There is something beautiful about caring deeply for other people. But what ha

We hear these phrases all the time. Express yourself. Be yourself. Let people see the real you. It sounds simple enough. But what does it actually mean? Does expressing yourself mean saying exactly what you think? Does it mean telling people how you feel? Does it mean dressing differently, being creative, speaking your mind or refusing to follow the crowd? It can mean all of those things. But self expression is much bigger than that. In its simplest form, self expression is a

There is something quite interesting about the way we encourage other people to be themselves. We tell our friends to speak their mind. We tell our children to be confident. We tell someone who is changing careers to follow what they really want. We admire the person who walks into a room and seems completely comfortable being exactly who they are. We even encourage people to stop worrying so much about what everyone else thinks. Yet somehow, when it comes to ourselves, many