What if the reason you do not know who you are supposed to be is because you have just spent way too much time trying to be who everyone else needed you to be? You may know how to be a good friend, a good partner, a good daughter, a good employee or the person people can rely on. You may know what other people expect from you. You may even know what you are supposed to want. But when someone asks what you want, what matters to you or what kind of life feels right for you, the

Some parts of you only appear or disappear under very specific conditions. Like when you are alone. When you are with someone you completely trust. When you are doing something that makes you lose track of time. Or when you are not trying to be sensible, agreeable, impressive or easy to understand. Those moments can reveal more than you expect. They might reveal the opinion you usually keep quiet, the ambition you tend to minimise or the side of your personality that doesn't

Why do I sometimes wonder whether I am actually being myself? It can be a strange feeling. You may not be lying to anyone. You may not be pretending to be someone else. You may even look completely comfortable with your life from the outside. And yet something feels slightly off. You start questioning your reactions. The way you speak. The choices you make. The people you become around different people. You start wondering whether you genuinely like the things you say you lik

We are always told to be authentic. To speak our mind. To just stop worrying about what other people think. To show up as the person we really are. It sounds simple until you are standing in front of someone you have never met before. How much should you say? How much should you reveal? What if they judge you? What if they misunderstand you? What if you show them something real and they use it against you? These questions can make self expression feel much more complicated th