What if the reason you do not know who you are supposed to be is because you have just spent way too much time trying to be who everyone else needed you to be? You may know how to be a good friend, a good partner, a good daughter, a good employee or the person people can rely on. You may know what other people expect from you. You may even know what you are supposed to want. But when someone asks what you want, what matters to you or what kind of life feels right for you, the

Doyou ever make a mistake and find yourself thinking about it long after everyone else has moved on? Maybe you replay what you said, question how you handled something or focus on the one thing you could have done better, even when there were plenty of things you did well. You might tell yourself that you are simply trying to improve. That you have high standards. That being hard on yourself is what keeps you motivated. But what happens when nothing you do ever feels quite go

You are sure to know how this ends! You have seen it before. You recognise the feeling, the conversation, the disappointment or the frustration because somehow you have arrived at the same place again. And yet, when the situation comes around, you do the same thing. You say yes when you meant no. You give someone another chance when you should not. You avoid the conversation you know you need to have. You stay quiet, hoping someone will notice. You overthink the decision, del

When you are not comfortable with yourself it creates constant editing that can feel very draining. You can look in the mirror and find something wrong. You can walk into a room and immediately notice who seems more confident. You can make a mistake and think about it for hours. You can achieve something and still feel as though it was not quite enough. You can receive a compliment and immediately find a reason why it probably was not deserved. And sometimes you can have a pe

In the back of our minds there is a question that can feel almost selfish just for asking it. Is it okay to love myself more than I love other people? For some people, the immediate answer will be no. We are taught to love our family. To care for our friends. To put our children first. To be there for the people we love. To make sacrifices. To give. To forgive. To put other people before ourselves. There is something beautiful about caring deeply for other people. But what ha

We hear these phrases all the time. Express yourself. Be yourself. Let people see the real you. It sounds simple enough. But what does it actually mean? Does expressing yourself mean saying exactly what you think? Does it mean telling people how you feel? Does it mean dressing differently, being creative, speaking your mind or refusing to follow the crowd? It can mean all of those things. But self expression is much bigger than that. In its simplest form, self expression is a

There is something quite interesting about the way we encourage other people to be themselves. We tell our friends to speak their mind. We tell our children to be confident. We tell someone who is changing careers to follow what they really want. We admire the person who walks into a room and seems completely comfortable being exactly who they are. We even encourage people to stop worrying so much about what everyone else thinks. Yet somehow, when it comes to ourselves, many