What if the reason you do not know who you are supposed to be is because you have just spent way too much time trying to be who everyone else needed you to be? You may know how to be a good friend, a good partner, a good daughter, a good employee or the person people can rely on. You may know what other people expect from you. You may even know what you are supposed to want. But when someone asks what you want, what matters to you or what kind of life feels right for you, the

Doyou ever make a mistake and find yourself thinking about it long after everyone else has moved on? Maybe you replay what you said, question how you handled something or focus on the one thing you could have done better, even when there were plenty of things you did well. You might tell yourself that you are simply trying to improve. That you have high standards. That being hard on yourself is what keeps you motivated. But what happens when nothing you do ever feels quite go

Some parts of you only appear or disappear under very specific conditions. Like when you are alone. When you are with someone you completely trust. When you are doing something that makes you lose track of time. Or when you are not trying to be sensible, agreeable, impressive or easy to understand. Those moments can reveal more than you expect. They might reveal the opinion you usually keep quiet, the ambition you tend to minimise or the side of your personality that doesn't

Why do I sometimes wonder whether I am actually being myself? It can be a strange feeling. You may not be lying to anyone. You may not be pretending to be someone else. You may even look completely comfortable with your life from the outside. And yet something feels slightly off. You start questioning your reactions. The way you speak. The choices you make. The people you become around different people. You start wondering whether you genuinely like the things you say you lik

What does it actually mean to be empowered and expressive? Because you can be confident enough to speak your mind and still spend your life making decisions based on what other people will think. You can have a voice and still be afraid to use it. You can know exactly what you want and still find yourself saying, “Whatever works for everyone else.” You can tell other people to be themselves while quietly editing yourself every day. So perhaps being empowered and expressive is

When you are not comfortable with yourself it creates constant editing that can feel very draining. You can look in the mirror and find something wrong. You can walk into a room and immediately notice who seems more confident. You can make a mistake and think about it for hours. You can achieve something and still feel as though it was not quite enough. You can receive a compliment and immediately find a reason why it probably was not deserved. And sometimes you can have a pe

We are always told to be authentic. To speak our mind. To just stop worrying about what other people think. To show up as the person we really are. It sounds simple until you are standing in front of someone you have never met before. How much should you say? How much should you reveal? What if they judge you? What if they misunderstand you? What if you show them something real and they use it against you? These questions can make self expression feel much more complicated th

Have you ever noticed that you seem to become a slightly different version of yourself depending on who you are with? Perhaps you are confident and talkative around one group of people, but quiet around another. You might laugh more with certain friends. You might become more serious around certain family members. You might find yourself agreeing with opinions that you would normally question. You might change the way you speak, dress, behave or even the things you pretend to